Tag Archive | friendship

For My Friend ❤

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Yesterday I had a visit with a friend.  This post is for her.

I am amazed by my friend.  She is fighting a battle that I can only imagine. I listen to her experiences and I am simultaneously devastated and overwhelmed with awe.

All her life, my friend has been the strong one….always, in every situation.  She has a gift of seeing things for what they are with stark clarity. She sees through all the BS most of us allow ourselves to be falsely soothed by. She cannot help herself but to the speak the truth and hold a magnifying glass to a situation that others try to sweep under the rug. And, as long as I have known her, I have admired and often been very grateful for this gift.

My friend’s gift has been such a heavy burden for her to bear. Others often don’t want to know what she sees. And they certainly don’t want to have their own flaws pointed out.  My friend has often experienced pain in living out this gift in the world.

And now, my friend is not able to be the strong one. Yet, many in her life find it hard to think of her any other way. I have been guilty of this as well.  I can’t even imagine the vulnerability she must be feeling in the midst of fighting this battle and coping with her current circumstances.

But, I do know this: My friend’s gifts in this world continue to be desparately needed.  My friend has inspired me for most of my life, and I know she will continue to do so for the rest of it. I have never known anyone who can bring such clarity while doing so with love and laughter.  My conversations with her are always comforting, challenging, thought provoking, and healing.  We almost always share tears and laughter within a short span of time that always leaves me feeling better.

My friend,  I  see you. I appreciate you. I value you. I honor your worth. My life is infinitely better because you are in it. You have brought more into my life than I can find words to express.  I have and will fail you in my areas of weakness. …and for that I am so deeply sorry. But, I will always do my best to be who you need me to be.

Thank you for being my friend.  I love you. I am with you.

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Just Present

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I just came back from a weekend away with the women in my book club. I am reflecting on how good the weekend was for me in so many ways.

There is just something about the company of women that is so very good for the heart and soul of other women.  We understand each other and instinctively know when to hug each other, cry together, laugh over ridiculous things, or just be present.

Just. Be. Present.

That is the most powerful thing we do for one another.

We listen. We make eye contact. We put our phones down. We are there.

I am blessed to know some amazing, strong, intelligent, and compassionate women. I am blessed by their presence in my life.

I feel strengthened and filled by their loving presence.

What a gift!

Go Through It

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Okay, I know the truth of this. But, it still is something I try to avoid and run away from.

I am reminding myself that pain serves a purpose.  There is something to be learned. There is growth that we would not experience without the pain.

Thank you to my dear friend who spent many hours with me yesterday,  allowing me a safe and loving place to go straight through some pain headlong.  Because of her friendship, I could stay with it long enough to feel it and process it.  That helps me to get to the other side of it where healing is available for me.

I know I am learning a lot right now, and I know there is so much growth happening for me. I know the pain is a necessary part of that.

By talking about and writing about it, I can move through it and not get stuck. I can feel that happening now.

Thank you, my friend.  ❤