I think I am finally finding some healthier perspectives about my kids. I am so blessed to have some very wise and supportive people on my life who have been reminding me of important truths. It’s hard to see those truths when you are in the midst of the emotional turmoil of your own real life sometimes.
My kids have gone through a lot of trauma, as have I. And, at the same time, I am still a good mom and they are still good people. We are all working through our own healing journey in our own ways and on our own time lines. I can’t rush theirs or make their journey take a direction that is more comfortable for me. I need to keep working on my own healing.
In the meantime, I have taken control of my own journey by setting and communicating much firmer boundaries with them. That is for their good, although they don’t completely see it that way. There was some push back, but that was to be expected. At the same time, they also expressed understanding of why I needed to do it.
I do need to trust that they will find their way through this. I will provide unconditional love and support along with healthy boundaries in the meantime.