I found out last night that my ex-husband’s grandmother is dying. I was part of that family for over twenty years. I loved her. I still do. Part of the pain of divorce comes in these kinds of situations. It is difficult for me to process and work through my grief. I am not sure I would be welcome, nor would I be comfortable to attend the funeral. I would like to visit her at the hospital, but again, I don’t know if that would be possible without causing emotional turmoil. My emotions must be put aside for the good of this lovely woman who lived a long and resilient life. My sons are also struggling with what they will do. The grief for us happens on many levels. I told them we will find ways to pay our respects and honor her memory. We will remember her well.